Review by: Sandy McKeown

Author Paula Friedrichsen sheds light on a subject most women only share in a secluded corner of a noisy deli over a strong cup of coffee. Paula found herself in a situation most women don’t easily talk about. She was attracted to another man, her own pastor at the time, no less.

Paula shares in her book, The Man You Always Wanted is the One You Already Have, how she ultimately discovered she was married to the right man—the one she chose to want. She takes us through the essential process of wanting the man we’re married to.

Allowing our husbands to shelter us in the storms of life, forgiving them when they have hurt us, and reveling in what she calls a comfortable love that society too often finds unexciting and mundane is ideology she adheres to.

At one point Paula refers to signs in her hometown that state, “Don’t feed the bears.” She uses that admonition as a reminder to not feed ‘the bears,’ men other than our husbands. Moreover, she teaches us how to emotionally feed our bear, our husband, and leads us back to our first love, that big lug that sleeps next to us.